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Change — for better or worse?

Change — for better or worse?

Boredom…

Frustration…

Irritability…

A sense of being stuck on the same treadmill day in day out…

We look for an answer…

Let’s make a change!

Spring cleaning…

A new job…

A new interest…

The idea of change can bring with it a feeling of satisfaction, the answer has been found, the solution is plain to see, and the problem need occupy our thinking no more. There is a sense of relief from the trapped and stifled feelings that have overtaken us.

However, the next step lacks clarity and in the moment of discovery has been overlooked.

How is this change to be brought about? How can ideas be translated into action?

There is a gradual realisation that a change does not happen in isolation.

Slowly, other feelings emerge; fear and uncertainty as to whether plans will bring about the hoped-for results.

Change suddenly feels risky.

Energy and enthusiasm for new ideas fades leaving behind a sense of hopelessness and a longing for something else to take its place.

There can be a sense of loss, that something internal is lacking, that blocks thinking and stops plans and ideas being realised.

These thoughts and feelings may have a familiar tone, reminiscent of other times of stress and difficulty.

Perhaps a different kind of change is needed…

Client case example

(All information is fictional and for illustration only)

A client approached the organization for individual therapy after feeling low for several months. They felt restless, lacking in motivation and unable to focus on a task. Emotionally, they felt upset, restless and irritable. This was having a serious impact on their lives and relationships. The client thought a change of career might be the answer and had decided to look for another job. However, they found the task of job application very stressful and had not managed to complete a single application.

The client had tried to feel positive, thinking that this could be a good opportunity to make life changes that would lift their mood and help them to feel positive about life again. However, putting this into practice was unexpectedly challenging and they were unprepared for the emotional impact of making such a change. They had begun to doubt whether this was such a good idea, and that continuing in their current work might be safer. However, going back to the same job, and the same pattern of their life felt like failure.

The client was gripped with a sense of fear and apprehension that felt overwhelming. The client had begun to recognize that the feelings they were experiencing were not new, they had felt that way before at different times in their life. The client was hopeful that therapy would help them to understand themselves better.

If you have experienced something that has left you feeling this way, 12 sessions of Time Limited Therapy can be helpful.

If you would like to speak to someone about the way you have been feeling, contact WPF Therapy at therapy@wpf.org.uk. WPF also offer Longer Term Therapy and Group Therapy.

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