27 July 2022
Book of the month – July 2022
With so much disharmony and fracture in the world the recent book Contented Couples by Anne Power makes welcome and fascinating read. Anne is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist and trained at The Bowlby Centre, WPF Therapy and Relate. She has led many innovative and popular workshops at WPF Therapy and her book expands on some of the work explored in these CPD offerings.
What is the secret of a long and contented marriage? In this book, Anne Power interviews eighteen contented couples in the USA and the UK to discuss how they found each other and what made it work. As well as couples brought together by family arrangement or random romance, we meet those introduced deliberately by friends, or through agencies and the internet. Almost all the couples interviewed had faced major challenges along the way – but their attachment grew and relationships survived. In this book they tell us why. The author uses some of the questions she puts to new couples in therapy: What does an argument look like? How has sex been across the years? Who has grown up the most over their time together? What stopped them from becoming a divorce statistic? Woven through the book are expert, jargon-free explanations of how couples attach, how they fight and how they repair. Each chapter ends with questions which invite us to reflect on our own relationships and to benefit personally from this chance to eavesdrop on contented couples.